ARCHIVE: September 2014

Sleep Training – Can It Work?

September 30, 2014 | 0 Comment

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When I started this blog I knew I had to do a post on sleep training considering the success we had with Jack. When I was desperate for a solution to get Jack sleeping longer, blogs like these were so helpful as I scoured the web for as many real life sleep training testimonials as I could find. Could I really teach Jack to sleep through in 3 nights or less?

Let me start at the beginning. Because I’ve never coped well without sleep, I read almost every sleep book on the market to arm myself with as much information as I could. Sleep books are a dime a dozen and so highly debated these days, so my advice is take what you think is useful from them and discard the rest.

Once Jack was born I did what I needed to do with my newborn and infant child. I never expected him to sleep through the night from the minute I bought him home, and although I don’t have any children to compare him with, I think he did pretty well. He settled into his own 3hr feeding routine and would feed 2-3 times overnight, 1-2 after the first few months.

I thought once he got older he’d just start sleeping longer until he eventually slept through consistently. Fast forward to 6.5 months though and the 1-2 wakings were turning into 3-4 and because I didn’t want him to wake my husband, I would rush in to feed, therefore never really giving him the chance to learn to self settle. By this stage he was firmly established on solids and I just felt instinctively that he was waking out of habit.

Like many parenting decisions, how (and if) you decide to sleep train is up to you, do your research and decide what is right for you. There are so many variations depending on your parenting style.

The general consensus from the books I read was to abide by the following;

  1. Wait until baby is 6 months AND double his or her birth weight AND healthy (not teething, not unwell).
  2. Make sure you have eliminated any other reasons baby is waking. Hunger, too hot/cold?
  3. If it works, it will work rapidly, in 3 nights or less. If it doesn’t, don’t persist. It’s not healthy for you or your bub. You can always wait a couple of months and try again.

I wanted to give Jack the ability to settle himself back to sleep and to know he was safe to do this overnight. Each time he woke and grizzled or protested I would wait 10 minutes before going in to him. If the protesting escalated to a distressed cry (trust me, you’ll learn the difference) I would wait only 5 minutes to comfort him.

Night 1. He woke frequently but settled himself back to sleep quickly. I only had to go in twice to quietly reassure him and re-tuck him in (no picking him up, no feeding).

Night 2. He woke twice and resettled himself within minutes. This was the first night in months that I didn’t actually have to get out of bed and I was amazed!

Since then he has slept though the night 12-13 hours. Because he’s such a great self settler, on the off chance that he does wake up and call out, I know it’s because something is wrong so I go straight in to comfort him (and I love those sleepy cuddles!).

 

The pics above show the evolution of Jack’s love for his comforter, Bluey, a present from his Nanna & Poppy. There is no sleeping without Bluey.

Belinda x

Let’s Make Up!

September 26, 2014 | 1 Comment

I love make up. Always have. It just took some time to work out how to apply it and what looked good on me. The first time I was ever professionally made up was for my wedding and I learnt a lot of useful tips – including how to apply false lashes, which I am obsessed with. They only ever come out for weddings or special events though. A good mascara will work for anything else.

This may sound weird or vain (or both) but 8 years ago I was going through a very heartbreaking and emotional break up from my ex-fiancé. I was staying with my family for a few days and was the most miserable I’d ever been. I don’t remember what I was doing that day, but I decided to put something nice on, do my make up and stop moping around. I vividly remember looking in the mirror and feeling so much better, knowing that life was going to go on for me and everything would be ok. See, weird right? But doing my make up and making an effort with my appearance helped. Messy hair and pajamas didn’t.

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Here are my choice of cosmetics for a night out. For day wear I use the same, but ditch the pencil eye-liner and lipstick. I don’t wear anything on my lips. I prefer the natural colour and I’m much more about making up my eyes.

1. L’oreal Bare Natural Minerals in Honey Glow

2. Napoleon Perdis Auto Pilot Primer

3. L’oreal Super Liner Felt Tip Eyeliner in Noir

4. L’oreal Color Riche in True Red

5. Revlon Pencil Liner in Chocolate

6. L’oreal Iridescent Finish in Hourglass Beige

7. ModelCo Fibre Lash Xtend Mascara in Black

8. NARS Eyeshadow in Kalahari

9. NARS Blush in Orgasm

The next best thing you can have is a good friend who is also a make up artist. I’m grateful to have one of the best.

With the above, you can’t tell I’ve been woken up at 5am the last few nights with a coughing baby!

Belinda x

 

 

 

Hello, Lover

September 22, 2014 | 1 Comment

Jack’s First Birthday Party – check! Baby Shower – check! It’s been busy. The last upcoming event on my list is Jack’s christening in November, which brings me to this dress, because it was originally bought for that.

Have you ever bought an item of clothing and then suffered buyers remorse, dwelling on how much you spent on it? Yeah, me too, but this is definitely not one of those times. This is the most beautiful dress I’ve ever worn, and it couldn’t fit better. Although I’m not one to obsess over my weight (been there a decade ago, done that!) if I’m honest I’m about a kilo up from my pre-baby weight, and 5 kilos up from when I got married. Now I don’t want to change any of that because this dress fits perfectly just as I am.

I think it’s understatedly sexy but also modest and elegant due to the high neckline and the length.

I finally had my hair cut. My ombre style was looking so brassy in the ‘Work It’ blog I posted I back in August, so I had to have it snipped and re-toned. I can never decide whether I want my hair long or short. It’s an ongoing #firstworldhairproblem.

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Dress – Lover

Have you all noticed that Jack always appears in at least one photo of my shoots?

Monday is (almost) over. Have a fantastic week!

Belinda x

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